THE POWER OF PEOPLE AND COMPANY

         We are all limited by our knowledge and experiences of life. From the various things we have each been through in our lives we have formed a profile of lessons and moments that guide us as we continue to live through each day. It’s humanly impossible to have all the knowledge and experiences in this world. Even those with unique abilities to contain a large amount of knowledge can’t have all the world’s experiences. Our experiences are brought about by our environment, namely where we live and perform our daily activities, as well as the people we come across and interact with daily. In all it’s safe to conclude that no two person’s are alike because no two people go through the same experiences and if they do, they experience it differently and come out of it differently.

          Everyone has questions that we ask each other but the answers you get from people are limited by their knowledge and experience in their own lives. Some questions in life don’t have the same answers, because different people give you different answers, according to their experience and knowledge of it. That’s why in search of answers to questions in your life, you must go to the One person who has ALL knowledge and knows what will work for you and is BEST for you. That is God. It’s good to ask for people’s advice but in the end the only true advice you should take is God’s. If it tallies what others told you, then you can also lean on them to help you carry out the answer.  

        Due to our varied life experiences, it is imperative to be friendly to everyone you meet and come across. Because any of them can be instrumental in helping you out in an aspect of your life in the near future. That's why there should be no room for racism or narcism which keep people boxed in a cave making them unproductive in their life and careers.
        Everybody is important and nobody is insignificant. We all have a different roles to play in each others' lives. By playing our roles well not only do we make an impact in a life but we make the world a better place by bettering our fellow humans.
        Make a positive impact in people's lives from today and eventually it will be payed forward into your life sooner or later

A Few Misconceptions about Wallflowers

I see the world as a looking glass where each person represents a different view and perspective of it. Every person’s experiences and lessons in life is different. The only similarities are the running themes.

Most see the life of a wallflower to be emo (emotional), dark and dreary. Even in movies and television we are portrayed as lonely people living in misery and constantly unhappy in our lives, while secretly wishing to be popular and more outgoing like most kids. As such, this narrow-minded view and portrayal of melancholies sticks in people’s minds. In turn most wallflowers grow up in misery thinking something is wrong with their personae.

                That is how I grew up. I originally wasn’t a shy kid. But as a consequence of constantly changing schools, never lasting more than 2 or 3 years in one, that nature developed and soon became my staple. I guess it became my defense mechanism against making new friends since I knew I’d eventually leave and not see them again. For years I enjoyed being alone in my wallflower world. No worries, no troubles. And whenever I was lonely I always had television and movies to escape to. But these shelters also proved to be disheartening at times. For in the roles I could relate to, not only were wallflowers portrayed as outcasts, but their nature was seen to be a problem to the rest of society. Most of them were seen to be geeks or nerds who worshiped the popular crowd. Or they were seen to be the poster child for kids who commit suicide. This was also portrayed as only occurring with wallflowers because of their shy and quiet demeanor.

                These stories make us wallflowers feel inferior to those who are more outspoken and expressive. It makes us feel like there is something wrong with us and that God must’ve not loved us as much. That’s why He made us to yearn for the company of others, yet be unable to go out of our comfort zone and meet people. But the truth is, God loves us all. He made us different from others so we could experience His love in a different way, and know Him more as we retreat to our fortress of solitude. It often annoys me when people who aren’t wallflowers and hence have spent no time living in people’s shadows, give me social advice and assume how easy it is to meet and make new friends just because it is their daily bread. Such people never understand what it’s like to have no friends at all or what it’s like to lose friends. They don’t mind losing friends because they can make more than the number they lost in that same day.

                I hardly talked to people growing up. I always stayed in my corner, focusing on school and minding my own business. Yet that wasn’t enough for people. Several people, in fact everyone, that I met always asked what was wrong with me. They all find my quiet nature to be unnatural and most of them concocted sad and abusive stories as to the why I am the way I am. To this day people still do so. The only difference is, now I don’t cower and feel inferior to them like I used to. Now I’m proud to be a wallflower.  


 Picture: Courtesy of Dextdee Photography

Through The Eyes of A Wallflower

A wallflower is defined as a shy person who goes unnoticed at social gatherings and is often found lingering by themselves against a wall. Such people are often ignored and even invisible to those in the crowd. People see them as boring, dull and uninteresting. But on the contrary they are more interesting than most sanguines. It's their shy nature that serves as a deterent to their social skills but at the same time it also benefits them. Being shy allows wallflowers to observe their surroundings more and as such they are more open to learn and accumulate a variety of skills and knowledge. However most of these skills and knowledge are kept to themselves and not shared with the rest of the world, who shun them due to their outward demeanor. Wallflowers are also found to be very gifted and artistic but often these talents are suppressed because they are often too shy to share it with the world and fear rejection.
I am a wallflower. With  this blog I intend to share my life experiences and perspectives in order to show others how diverse we wallflowers are. One disadvantage of being a wallflower, is that people don't understand what I go through. Whenever I try to explain a problem I'm going through to a friend, they mostly attribute it to me being short-sighted about the problem, or they simply do not understand. But the truth is, wallflowers are the most open-minded people, because of their pessimistic nature. We view every possible side and angle of a situation. We even psycho-analyze ourselves and list possible solutions to the problems we go through. We only try talking to others about it because we need help in deciding which solution is best to take. It takes a lot of courage and effort for wallflowers, especially me, to openly talk to people about personal problems. That's why they choose a specific person or small group of people to talk to when such issues arise. However, when one or all of these people reject them or continuously misunderstand them, they lose that connection and eventually hope and trust they have in people. Gradually, they fall back into their instinctive wallflower ways by recoiling back into their shell.
That is my current wallflower status.


Picture: Courtesy of Dextdee Photography

THE CHAIR

A chair is a stationary object that serves only one purpose.

It’s a slave to human need that never receives a thank you. 

But the life of a chair is very fascinating.

It sees the happy times, sad times, strange times, emotional times.

 It’s there to support us when we need it, and even when we don’t.

But we never appreciate it’s presence, until it’s no longer around.

A chair is a simple object with a simple task. A task to support.

But its appearance can look complicated, thus we don’t bother to fully understand it.

A chair can be wooden, metal, straw, cushion, rocking, or even armless.

It can have more than one task. All to serve our needs

But the more complex and skilful a chair appears, the more it is downgraded.

A chair is only deemed complex when it is failed to be fully understood, and its skills fully exercised.

Thus just like everything else, it is undermined to do its primary task. 

To blend into its crowd and do what every chair does.

But every chair does something different in relation to its owner

Its story is different.

If chairs could talk, they would tell our story. Our real story.

 The ones we hide from the world, but cry to our chairs about.

They not only support us physically, but do much more.

If only chairs could talk. We would see ourselves better in the eyes of the things that really matter.

But no one wants to hear chairs talk.

 No one wants to hear them speak the truth hidden in their seats

People are comfortable sitting on the truth, and living the lie.

Because chairs have one purpose. Not to talk or spill secrets, but to stay mute and support.

That is the comfort humans live in.

Today I was a chair. 

Sat silently and quietly for hours, as those in church went about their daily routine. 

Unable to speak or move, because it wasn’t my place. But just stayed motionless and silent.

There are chairs of different kinds in our lives.