Through The Eyes of A Wallflower

A wallflower is defined as a shy person who goes unnoticed at social gatherings and is often found lingering by themselves against a wall. Such people are often ignored and even invisible to those in the crowd. People see them as boring, dull and uninteresting. But on the contrary they are more interesting than most sanguines. It's their shy nature that serves as a deterent to their social skills but at the same time it also benefits them. Being shy allows wallflowers to observe their surroundings more and as such they are more open to learn and accumulate a variety of skills and knowledge. However most of these skills and knowledge are kept to themselves and not shared with the rest of the world, who shun them due to their outward demeanor. Wallflowers are also found to be very gifted and artistic but often these talents are suppressed because they are often too shy to share it with the world and fear rejection.
I am a wallflower. With  this blog I intend to share my life experiences and perspectives in order to show others how diverse we wallflowers are. One disadvantage of being a wallflower, is that people don't understand what I go through. Whenever I try to explain a problem I'm going through to a friend, they mostly attribute it to me being short-sighted about the problem, or they simply do not understand. But the truth is, wallflowers are the most open-minded people, because of their pessimistic nature. We view every possible side and angle of a situation. We even psycho-analyze ourselves and list possible solutions to the problems we go through. We only try talking to others about it because we need help in deciding which solution is best to take. It takes a lot of courage and effort for wallflowers, especially me, to openly talk to people about personal problems. That's why they choose a specific person or small group of people to talk to when such issues arise. However, when one or all of these people reject them or continuously misunderstand them, they lose that connection and eventually hope and trust they have in people. Gradually, they fall back into their instinctive wallflower ways by recoiling back into their shell.
That is my current wallflower status.


Picture: Courtesy of Dextdee Photography